On Not Being Shame-Faced

And the shame at the heart of my perfectionism

I’ve been thinking about perfectionism a lot recently, thanks to my friend Virginia Sole-Smith’s new podcast, Cult of Perfect, which she’s co-hosting with my parasocial friend Sara Louise Petersen. In the first episode, they asked the question: how does your perfectionism show up? And I realized that, for me, the answer had a lot to do with shame, and a…