When Do Women Get Cared For (by Men)? Introducing Hetero-Insistence

As women, we are the caregivers and the holders. But we are radically uncared for and unheld ourselves. It’s not fair: and, to a large extent, men can fix it.

I am writing tired. Two weeks ago, my husband underwent a long-anticipated, much-needed, but fairly brutal, surgery. Everything, I’m pleased to say, went well, and he was out of hospital in the anticipated timeframe and has been recovering well at home with less pain than we were expecting. Thanks to invaluable help and support—some paid, some unpaid—I …